My valentine day experience in a Nigerian Boarding house

Nigerian black girls in high school

I was probably in ss2 or ss1 … not too sure, but i was definitely in senior secondary school.

Put up your hands if you attended a Nigerian Boarding secondary school.. lets meet ourselves in the comment section below.

Ya’ll know that valentine was a BIGGGGG deal in secondary school!!!!!!!!! I don’t know if it is so much of a big deal now as it was, but when I was there o.. Nobody joked with valentine.. even if you were getting only singlet and boxers.

This is the story of how i almost got valled.. (as we called it) but my enemies were hard at work..

vals gift
vals gift

Before i start my story, let me give some context..  I was a tomboy in secondary school. Boys were not queuing to toast me but at least we were all cool.. I was their guy!!! Infact once when a boy attempted to ask me out, I was so shocked.. Like.. Come o.. Are we not guys? I made him feel very stupid… We’ll refer to me as Y.

Then in contrast, There used to be this very hot girl in my class… lets call her Z… this babe was a northern belle… the babe fine die… Guys used to be all over her and valentine’s day was the day we knew the guy wey him pepper rest wella… the one that was serious about dating her cos she went with nothing but the best.. She was also my roommate….

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Back to our story…. valentine day… The way vals day worked was that students will either bribe, beg or bully the caterer or home economics teachers to make cakes or snacks.. then do the same to the tuck shop attendants to help get fruit wine … the desperate ones will send security guards out of school and the ones with connections will beg a corper teacher or a really cool teacher… Total chaos…  So most times.. Its not the guys with the most money that we consider as the bawses.. .. It’s the guy that takes the most risk, goes the extra mile or buys stuff that’s outta this world (to us then… )those were the ones we liked…

We were not allowed to bring in provisions in my boarding school … atall.. Common cabin biscuit will get you a serious warning.. trust me.. we were not happy students. Any opportunity to eat food or provisions we grabbed like wolves.

Now a rich good guy can beg the school caterer to bake a hugs cake for you and buy you plenty stuff from the tuck shop.. But that wasn’t very impressive that’s a regular deregular valentine.. i mean.. tuck shop wasn’t running away and you got cakes if you were friendly with Food and Nutrition students… .… now imagine the other guy that gets you maybe Mr Biggs rice and chicken all the way from Lagos (my school was 10 hours away from Lagos)… Maryland cookies from only God knows where, maybe a dress, then flowers and chocolate (mars and sneakers, the big boys got malteasers) then maybe wine that is not eva……. . Into a school that was at least 1 hour away from proper civilization….  This was the guy you wanted to date… Bragging rights for a whole term (cos our attention span was short.)

struggle cake
struggle cake
big boys cake

Back to this beautiful valentine day again.. …

The fated day when I knew that the only Gift I was getting was the Gift of life from our lord Jesus.. I had kuku gbakamued(accepted my fate)

My 3 best friends and I we had a ritual for the day.. The valentine bug was in the air, and even if we didn’t get valled, we had to participate somehow…  Lol.. We provided sharp junior students help the guys carry stuff for something in return and provided consulting service about the best way to make the girl you like, like you back because of your valentine gift!!!! Like Pimps.. When we were done with that, we moved to the intersection of boys and girls hostel.. Teasing and roasting people that were carrying their own gifts… Lol.. The things you do when you are baeless…


Some hostels had this cute but very very annoying tradition where when someone gets a surprise gift, they turn off the hostels light temporarily, then the lucky lady enters her room and maybe trips, or sits on her gift.. one way or the other She sha sees that she has a gift, then they turn on the light and she unwrapps it for everyone to see.. It makes the surprise feel like a surprise.. (the things you do when you have limited resources)  Cute for the lucky lady and her friends, annoying to everyone else… especially the baeless girls trying to read.

who else had this book?

After a successful day of making people feel awkward their ballons or their school made cakes.. We made our way back to the hostel. Oh there was no light. Btw.. Which meant a surprise gift lurking around… I rolled my eyes… These people wont let someone see road on top valentine.. …

My friends and I  got to my room, I opened my locker and guess what fell out…. Boxes upon boxes upon boxes of gifts and a cake at the top compartment (my locker had 3 compartments)…. As soon as my friend heard, they turned on a torch light and started screaming!!!! She got Valled.. She got valled!!!! we go chop today o!!!!!! Everybody started running to my room to find out what I got.. Luckily for me, They hadn’t turned on the light and i ran to lock the door to my room before anyone could get in.

Oh another break in transmission.. When you get a valentine gift,every single person wants to know what you got… so they can gauge the kind of boyfriend you have.. Some girls will come in and say awwwww, and actually be happy for you,  haters will snicker, some just want to know how they can get their share, others are the lie detectors for those lie lie girls that are always bragging, some are just there for the gist… the real Tatafos.. …. And if you get a gift from another persons Boyfriend… SCANDAL!!!!!! Premium entertainment for the rest of the term Lol. So the babes who did not like wahala, babes with broke boyfriends and side chicks will collect their gifts in secret and sneak them into the hostel.

excited secondary school girls

Back to my gift.. As soon as i saw the gifts, something didn’t feel right… I knew in my heart of hearts of hearts that something was horribly wrong..

Babe.. Wetin you get? Who valled you? How many gifts? Plenty questions started from my friends and other roomies.

No no no no…. The devil is a liar I said to myself.. My enemies want to disgrace me in public abi.. … the girls at the window were demanding to come in… “who got valled in room 20 they asked” I had to be sharp.. I had to get to the bottom of this asap.. Apparently it was one of two things… I was either getting pranked or the mumu boy sent an absentminded junior to deliver the gifts… whatever it was… the outcome wasn’t gonna be good..

I dived into my locker and began to look for a card.. What kind of mess-up will it be if another girl enters my room and claims I stole her val gifts or na mistake… after i have basked in the glory of collecting gifts.. Premium gifts to be precise.. I wasn’t gonna survive the gossips.. I checked for a card with my friends torchlight….  No card o… I was finished…

Mo ku Mo gbe Mo daran...

I knew these were not mine.. But I had to find the owner asap!!! These are split second decisions here o… I started panicking… my friends were getting confused…. Those ones just wanted to chop free rice.

“this must be a mistake…. these are not mine o… ” I told my friends… “maybe they are for you sally

“me that my hostel is the next block” sally (not real name )replied.. “Ode, open the gift joor”

I started passing the gift ownership around  until something clicked… why is the finest girl in my class who is also my roommate, sleeping under her blanket with one miserly flower on her table… Z hasn’t gotten valled yet so let me just pass it to her.. They are probably for her sef..

“oooohhhhh.. The gifts are for Z”

It almost sense … but weather it made sense or not, I didn’t care.. I just wanted someone else to claim ownership of the gifts and then if they are rightfully mine… the messager will come back and tell me. Then i can bask in more glory and the shame will be passed to someone else…..  That was the plan. My friends finally understood too and we passed the gifts to Zs locker and  then started shouting… “Z got valled Z got valled”  

The girls outside got even more rowdy and they brought light, so we opened the door and like 30 girls ran in to see the vals gift…..   I don’t remember what it was but it was premium!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyways.. Long story short.. The vals gifts were actually for Z, the Ode messager that wanted to ruin my life came and confirmed it…

I thanked the gods of my grandfather who were protecting me from the hands of shame and disgrace…

Nah mens… I was not about to have that kind of thing written about me in our local Big brother… (this was the advent of big brother Africa and the original school ofofos started this club called big brother where they aired peoples dirty laundry and posted it on notice boards around school….. Your gist getting to them was the worst thing that could happen to you) lol.. Imagine this was my biggest problem at the time… I miss those days cos adulating is truly a scam…

 

Anyways, In conclusion, I went to bed that night with too many feelings .. Adrenaline, disappointment, surprise and relief.. Oh and no food cos Z didn’t share her rice with me. I don’t know why till now.

secondary school vals
See how thick the forest behind us was? we were truly in the jungle..

Happy valentine

 

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6 Comments

  1. Awww Tolu!!! This brings such sweet nostalgic memories, I was a hot babe in secondary school (bragging rights😂) so I always had a myriad of gifts on Valentine’s Day, literally a truckload…but today all I have is the love of Christ our Saviour 🙏 . I’m angry with Z, what kind of roommate is that?? And happy love day. May you never doubt God’s love. Fisayo

    1. Thanks for stopping by Fisayo… really appreciate it.
      lol.. all you have is the love of christ!!! LMAO!!!!
      so you were a hot babe… beafing you seriously..
      Dont mind Z.. only God know what was on her mind!!!

  2. I actually read this post on thenakedconvos,com and came back to read the post here… I think, I’m about to visit this blog everyday for the rest of the year!

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